We went traveling for a year in 2013, after being together for seven years. I think we both knew at that point we wanted to get married, and when New Zealand passed the marriage bill it consolidated that! I proposed to Liv on the Amalfi Coast, we were staying in a little apartment overlooking the water and because it was only a one-bedroom place I made her take a bath while I prepared a surprise (or not so surprise) dinner… Four hours later she came out wrinkled as a prune, I proposed, she said yes. Then about eight weeks later when we were in Paros in Greece, we took our scooter to a secluded beach, climbed up a mountain and Liv asked me to marry her.
Our advice to couples getting married – don’t be pregnant, completely gut and renovate a house and plan a wedding at the same time! Make the day is about what you love, and invite who you want to invite not who you think you should invite. People will always understand. Make sure you have good food and good entertainment. It makes the night! Don’t worry about the little things. People won’t notice. But they will notice if you’re not relaxed and enjoying the day. Steal some time away at the end of the night. We went and sat amongst the grapevines and looked at the stars and watched our guests dance from afar – a moment we’ll never forget.
We wanted to have a wedding day unique to us and one that encompassed places and spaces we knew well. We decided to say our vows in a little park across the street from our apartment on Douglas Street in Ponsonby, Auckland, then the after-party at Good One cafe just up the road. We didn’t think you could get much better than getting ready together at home, walking across the road to get married and then walking a bit further to party.
We got married at a bed and breakfast in Silverdale, about 35 minutes north of Auckland. We wanted a big, beautiful house on stunning grounds, and somewhere that wasn’t a commonly used wedding venue.My dress wasn’t actually the style I originally had in mind when I started looking – I was adamant I wouldn’t be in a strapless dress and I thought it would be more contemporary. But as I started to try dresses on, it was obvious strapless worked for my shape, and when I tried on this one I knew it was the dress for me. The lace and embroidery detail is just incredible, I loved the semi-exposed bodice and dramatic train. It was the dress I could imagine my great-grandchildren looking at in photos and saying, ‘Look at granny’s amazing dress, wasn’t it beautiful.’
Lily Montana + Scrap Wall
Married in Sydney, 2014
Scrap told me he was going to marry me about three weeks into our relationship – we went up to my beach house in Te Ngaere Bay. It was a really amazing trip, we just sat in front of the fire and read books, drank wine and cooked – I think we both felt like we’d found the family we wanted to have with each other.